17 Apr How to experience more intimacy and love with a man, even in times of conflict
Did you know there is a simple way to experience more intimacy and love with a man, even in times of conflict?
It’s true there is a way to speak with him so he will come towards you during the conflict instead of pulling away. It requires a new way of being and thinking in a relationship and so worth it! A man can deal with the tears. It’s the anger. They have a hard time with.
The general consensus is, there is a conflict that happens in your relationship with your partner. Then generally, women raise their tempers and get super upset and that can lead a lot of different things and then men pull back and retract and take their love away from us .
And this was happening in my life for many years and then I learned and have practiced a new way of being with men.
The magical secret her is vulnerability – we are so use of thinking we need to give him a lesson.
so we get angry or we give him the silent treatment and pull our love away because his pulling his away.
That’s me in the past. And then, I switched.
When you’re in a relationship with a man, and you become vulnerable and you said you were triggered and that hurt you, then you can speak from that place of hurt.
What normally happens is we feel triggred, and we get hurt, and so we recluse – get angry and start lashing out – the rage comes out.
The problem is it’s hard to meet that person there. The truth is we feel powerless and hurt.
You can walk away from that to calm yourself down and come back and heres the amazing thing: “you can say, hey can I talk to you about something.”
You can ask him, “what can we do so this doesn’t keep happening.”
If you’re in a healthy relationship with a healthy man, it means you can be with a person that is open, willing and wants to bring out the best in you.
Often times we will pull things away from ourselves. We withhold things because we sacrifice ourselves. That means that somehow we are more powerful or we deserve some badge and I think the only badge that we get there is the “bitch badge” and we’re not really taking care of ourselves.
When we don’t take care of ourselves, it’s really difficult to show up and be a powerful, loving beautiful woman.
Taking care of yourself is taking care of others.
Taking care of yourselves includes walking away from the things/situation that makes you upset.
As woman we need connection and if we don’t have connection because we feel our man pulls away his love from us, that can be hurtful. But there’s a way to heal that and get a response that you want in order for him to know you.
It is important for you to be vulnerable.
You can create deeper intimacy with vulnerability.